Date With Discernment.
Make Room for Mutual Connection.

The Selective Filtering Method

Dating by Elimination

Dating apps are searchable directories. The app can show you who’s out there; your filter helps you decide who deserves more of your time. We start by getting specific about the relationship you want and what it looks like in ordinary behavior.

I bring more than 20 years in mental health and the perspective of a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Drawing on relationship and attachment research, I help you turn broad hopes like “I want someone emotionally available” into questions and observations you can actually use. We look at what someone says they want, how they respond to a boundary, whether the effort is mutual, and whether they do what they say they’ll do.

You can move on quickly when goals clearly differ, effort stays one-sided, or someone pressures you to move faster than you want. When the picture is less clear, you can ask a direct question and see what happens over time. The point is to spend less energy on cycles of hope and disappointment, and more on people who show the willingness and capacity to build something with you.

Designed With You

How We Co-Create Your Coaching Package

We start with an Alignment Consultation. We’ll talk about what dating has been like for you, what you want to change, and where support would make the biggest difference. Together we’ll map the goals, duration, and level of contact that fit your life. Before you decide, you’ll know what’s included, what it costs, and how we’ll work together.

• Private 1:1 coaching: Explore the choices and patterns that keep repeating, clarify your relationship goals, and practice decisions that reflect what matters to you.
• Dating profile design: Refine your bio, choose photos that reflect your life, and build an app strategy you can sustain.
• Match screening and profile review: Review anonymized examples together and build a filter for shared goals, mutual effort, respectful communication, and follow-through.
• Research-informed relationship and attachment assessments: Use structured, non-diagnostic tools to reflect on how you respond to closeness, uncertainty, and boundaries.
• Curated learning resources and communication tools: Take away targeted readings, reflection exercises, conversation prompts, and wording you can adapt in your own voice.
• Timely text feedback and boundary support: If included, use a designated secure messaging app for anonymized dating questions. We can co-draft a reply, practice setting a limit, or think through pacing within agreed response windows. You decide what to send.
• Facilitated peer support groups: When available and a fit, learn alongside other women in a guided space for shared reflection and practical skill-building.

Neurodiversity-Affirming Coaching

Dating Coaching for Neurodivergent Women

Dating can ask a lot of you: sorting through messages, interpreting implied expectations, and staying present in unfamiliar places. If you’ve spent years adapting to other people’s expectations, it can be hard to notice what makes a date feel good to you. We’ll build a way of dating that respects your energy, communication style, and need for clarity.

I welcome women with ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, learning or sensory differences, and women who self-identify or are still exploring. You don’t need a formal diagnosis or a particular way of describing yourself. You don’t have to mask to make a connection.

• Make apps manageable. Set a pace for swiping and replying, choose a few clear filters, and build in breaks before dating starts to feel like another job.
• Ask directly and make room to process. Practice naming what you want, checking what someone means, and asking for time to think before you answer. We’ll pay attention to how they respond to your requests.
• Plan dates around your sensory needs. Choose settings, timing, and activities that help you stay present. That might mean a quiet walk, a shorter first date, or downtime afterward.
• Notice masking, pace, and mutual effort. Reflect on when you’re enjoying the connection and when you’re working hard to seem easygoing. If a new connection takes up a lot of your attention, build in time to notice whether interest, respect, and follow-through are mutual.
• Choose what to share and when. Talk through whether you want to disclose your neurodivergence, how to name a need without sharing more than you want, and how to respond if someone dismisses a boundary.

We can adapt coaching itself, too, with a clear session agenda, time to think, written prompts, or practical examples. We’ll decide what fits during your Alignment Consultation. This is dating coaching, a separate service from psychotherapy.

Investment

Custom Coaching From $1,500 to $7,500

Packages run from 6 weeks to 6 months. Your investment reflects the duration, the number and frequency of sessions, the resources and options we select together, and the level of between-session support you want.

A focused engagement might center on your profile and screening strategy. A longer partnership might add ongoing feedback as you date and make decisions about a developing relationship. We’ll agree on the scope, messaging expectations if applicable, and total investment before you enroll.

Coaching and Psychotherapy

Nationwide Coaching, With Clear Boundaries

Online dating and relationship coaching is available to adult women anywhere in the United States. It focuses on goals, decisions, and practical skills you can use in your dating life. Coaching is separate from mental health counseling: it does not provide psychotherapy, diagnosis, mental health treatment, or crisis services, and it does not establish a therapist–client relationship. Messaging, when included, does not provide immediate or emergency support.

I offer psychotherapy separately to eligible clients in California, Oregon, and Washington. If your primary goal is clinical care, explore my therapy services.

Free Guide

After the Date

Take five minutes to reflect on compatibility, capacity, and boundaries before deciding whether you want another date.

Your First Step

Request an Alignment Consultation

Tell me what you’d like to change about dating and where you’d welcome support. We’ll talk through your priorities and see whether custom coaching fits. This consultation is for coaching fit and planning.

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